If You Suspect Abuse
Alberta’s Child Abuse Hotline is 1–800-387–5437
Kids Help Line is 1–888-668–6868
The best way to respond to a child whom you suspect may have been abused is to listen carefully to what the child says and to be attentive to his or her behaviour. Show your concern. Ask if anything is the matter. But do not press for an answer. Let the child know that you are ready to listen at any time.
If a child tells you about abuse … support the child!
If a child discloses abuse, there are important steps to follow:
Talk to the child in private
When a child discloses abuse, take the child to a quiet place. Allow the child to tell what happened in his or her own words, without pressing for details. It is important not to “interview” the child. Detailed questioning is best handled by trained investigators.
Listen to the child
Accept what the child is telling you even if it is difficult for you to believe the identity of the alleged abuser or that abuse has taken place. Comfort the child by saying that it is good that you were told and confirm that he or she has done the right thing.
Remain calm and don’t overreact
You may feel angry. If so, make it clear that your anger is not directed toward the child. Tell the child that what happened is not his or her fault – that he or she is not to blame. Let the child know that the alleged abuser has done something wrong.
Reassure the child
Talking to someone about what happened is likely to cause some degree of anxiety for the child. Your supportive reaction will help the child cope with any feelings of confusion or guilt. Let the child know that you will do something to help. Depending on the child’s age, you may be able to explain that you will talk to other people who know what to do in these situations and that they will help too.
Call for assistance immediately
In Alberta, you are legally bound to report all suspected cases of child abuse to Children’s Services.
Adapted from “What to do if a child tells you of sexual abuse”: Understanding the Law Department of Justice, Canada
